71: You Need To Hold Yourself To High Standards Too (It's Not Just About Him)
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You Need To Hold Yourself To High Standards Too (It's Not Just About Him)
Be honest, are you holding yourself to the same dating standards you expect from others?
In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I share a big shift I’ve made in my dating mindset—one that’s honestly changed everything. We always talk about what we want from someone else: effort, communication, chemistry, connection. But are you showing up in the same way you want them to? I’m diving deep into the dating standards you hold for yourself.
Because you can't control how someone else shows up, but you can choose the energy, effort, and self-respect you bring to the table.
Plus: I share examples of the standards I hold myself to, habits I’ve worked on, and why holding yourself to high standards makes it so much easier to walk away from people who aren’t a match.
I also share some Happy Hour excitement (spoiler: it involves a spicy margarita) and talk about the difference between compromise and self-abandonment in dating.
If you’ve ever ghosted yourself, ignored your boundaries, or let chemistry override red flags—this one’s for you.
Tune in now to hear:
1. What dating standards for yourself actually look like
2. How to tell when you’re not holding your own standards
3. Why "the vibe" might be clouding your judgment
4. Journal prompts to set realistic, self-respecting dating rules
5. Why holding standards for you makes it easier to walk away
6. Why I end things quickly when there’s no connection
7. How I show up physically, emotionally, and energetically for dating
8. The unattractiveness of self-abandonment disguised as “being nice”
9. Dating dilemma: “How do I hold standards without giving in to fear of missing out?”
🌶️ Bonus: A spicy margarita taste test and am I going to date women in the future?
Mentioned:
The Truth: You’re Actually Obsessed With Yourself, Not Him
How to Overcome Anxious Attachment When Dating Someone New
Your Dating Profile: How To Write One, When To Update It, What Not To Include
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