66: Don't Let Their Negative Dating Experiences Impact You (There Are Still Good Men Out There)
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Don't Let Their Negative Dating Experiences Impact You (There Are Still Good Men Out There)
If you’ve ever thought:
“I used to feel hopeful about dating, but now all I hear is horror stories”
“Everyone around me says men are trash, and part of me is starting to believe it”
“There’s no such thing as a fairytale anymore, online dating is just full of ghosters, love bombers and men who only want sex”
…this is for you.
In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m calling out the negative dating narratives that aren’t yours to buy into. If you’ve ever found yourself absorbing horror stories from friends, group chats, or reels and wondering if love is even worth it anymore, this episode is your pep talk to believe in better.
I dive into how our mindset, beliefs, and standards shape our dating experiences—and how you don’t have to settle just because others did. I also share a personal dating story that reminded me firsthand that good men do exist, and explain why holding your standards is a powerful act of self-respect, not pickiness.
Here’s the general vibe of the episode:
1. Letting Go of Fear-Based Dating Narratives: Why other people’s bad experiences don’t define your future
2. Reclaiming Hope in Dating: Shifting back into trust and belief that love is possible
3. The Power of Standards: Why you don’t need to lower the bar to find connection
4. Dating From an Empowered Place: Honouring your intuition and knowing when to walk away, even from someone who’s “good”
5. Loving Your Single Life: Why being single doesn’t mean you're behind—and how it actually supports high-standard dating
Mentioned:
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If you're done with dating Chads who ask for photos before you've met, ghost you after a week, put in zero effort to actually get to know you and think that inviting you to dinner at their place is an appropriate first date, this is for you.
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